Help I'm A Young Crossdresser!
By Cathy L Anderson
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Understanding that is a big key to life. As long as we dwell on our own problems, we're never happy. The reason is because as a social species, human beings are designed to help each other.
To paraphrase John F. Kennedy's words, "Ask not what others can do for you; ask what you can do for others." Once you realize that, a huge and impossible burden is lifted from you-- that of worrying about yourself!
Nobody can see their own life objectively. However, we're really pretty good at sensing another person's problems; and can truly help them, because we're objective about their problems. Don't believe everything other people say Black-and-white thinking is a big problem. These days it seems like there are two extreme views about transgenderism. Religious fundamentalists say 'queer' is completely bad, whereas most transsexuals and crossdressers say it's completely good.
Most people have the sense to dismiss the first view, but, unfortunately, few see the shallowness of the second view. The view that "if it feels good, do it" has itself become a religion.
The truth is that "moderation in all things" and "finding the middle path" are still good ways to go. There's no need to be all one thing--all male or all female; all hetero or all gay. It's a mistake to think like that. Taking the harder path
Short-term pleasure is seldom the sign of a right choice.
So, for example, taking hormones, and plunging into a femme lifestyle might seem very attractive. In fact, it is attractive, in the sense that it offers sensual pleasure. But that doesn't not make it the right or smart choice. For one thing, as noted above, part of life is to learn that you don't just exist for your own sake. You're here for a reason, and a big part of that reason is to help other people. So in making decisions, you have to consider not just what makes "me" feel good now, but what will make me feel good in the long term, and what choice will benefit other people.
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