All The World's A Stage
By Wendy Robyns
Men, likewise, have spent all their lives exploring and practising their masculinity, which is widely different to the female experience. They learn to play aggressive games, to look upon girls as 'sissy', to be assertive, to fight, to be very 'physical'.
Now, whether the boys enjoy all these male attitudes or not is irrelevant, the fact remains that he is instilled with them.
Thus, for a male to create a genuine female persona needs both hard work and endless practice to eradicate all the main conditioning from birth and to make up for the lack of actual female experience upon which to draw.
But all is not lost. The one great advantage the serious transvestite or transsexual has is that he will already have strong feminine tendancies and an overwhelming desire to develop and amplify his femininity.
These tendencies he will probably have had from a very early age, possibly from birth, and although he will probably have had to hide them from the outside world in order to survive, they will have been secretly working upon his personality.
Indeed, in very many cases, the feminine urges will have been stronger than the male ones.
Thus, in spite of being subjected to male conditioning from birth, the secret feeling of inner femininity will have inevitably produced a deep and lasting sensitivity towards an understanding of the female urge, together with the all consuming desire to be accepted as female, which produces the sort of strong motivation which cannot help but be a good starting point. However, it is important to appreciate that this is only a starting point. Dedication and endless hard work is still needed.
Never forget that practice makes perfect, that if you genuinely want to be acceptably feminine you are going to have to work at it, and seek out constructive criticism when and where possible, accepting it in the spirit in which it was offered.
To take umbrage, for example, because somebody suggests that your make-up is too heavy, or that your heels are so high that your walk has become grotesque, is only to bury your head in the sand! You just have to learn to accept help where ever it is offered.
Whilst, of course, we all know that every human being is different, there are certain general characteristics and attitudes common specifically to the female sex.
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