Transgender Resources

Easy Pedicure

Smooth, feminine looking feet are an absolute must in the warm weather when sandals are worn. Giving yourself a pedicure at home is not nearly as complicated as you might think. Here is an easy step-by-step proceedure that guarantees gorgeous toes. You will need the following items (as for the manicure): Towel Bowl Warm water or olive oil Emery Board Oily polish remover Base coat / ridge filler Coloured nail varnish Polish sealer / clear varnish Cotton wool Orange stick Cuticle remover / conditioner moisturising cream In addition you will need toe dividers, a pumice stone and nail clipper. 1. Begin by clipping each toenail straight across with your nail clipper. File each nail lightly with an emery board until nice and even.   2. Now soak your feet in warm water for 10 to 15 minutes. Pat them just dry enough so water doesn't drip, and apply cuticle conditioner to each nail base, gently pushing back with an orange stick.   3. If corns and hard skin are a problem, try using a pumice stone on these rough area while feet are still moist. After scrubbing the soles of your feet and the rough spots around each toe, apply a good moisturising cream to the entire foot and between each toe. Clean nail surface with a cotton tipped orange stick dipped in remover.   4. Polished toenails give feet a lovely feminine look. First, place toe dividers between toes. Apply your basecoat, remembering to let it dry on each nail for about one minute.   5. Polish your toenails carefully with the same colour you have on your fingernails or a similar shade. You can then apply your polish sealer and quick dry, making sure polish is completely dry before removing the toe dividers.   Handy Hints for Feminine feet Soak nightly if possible ensuring you dry feet thoroughly - especially between the toes - and then massage in moisturising cream Use a nail brush to keep toe nails clean Never shape nails, always cut straight across to avoid ingrowing toe nails If you have sweaty feet put talcum powder in your shoes or stockings, or use a proprietry foot spray Go barefoot as often as possible (I'm famous for it!) Buy correctly fitting leather shoes which give and allow your feet to breathe (unlike cheap synthetic materials) Never try to apply polish without using toe dividers - it will smudge every time Like the manicure, your pedicure can be done in about 30 minutes each week. Once you've invested in the necessary tools and products you'll find that your at-home 'beauty night' will keep you looking and feeling terrific!

Testimonials

 

Real extracts from customers letters or emails telling us of their personal results. The originals of all of these letters are held by Transformation for verification.

 

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We realise that most of our customers guard their privacy & would not want to appear on video. But we also know that there will be a few of you out there that would love to appear as a convincing woman in a short video clip where even your mum would not recognise you!!! If you are interested in shooting a short testimonial video using your phone please ring Diane or Beverley for full details on 0161-773-4477 or email us here.

 

BECOME AN INSPIRATION TO OTHERS

 

Hi ladies, Just wanted to tell you about my visit to Manchester on Saturday. I went again for a changeaway and had just the BEST time. It was wonderful, and again, that is down to the staff you had on duty. As I walked in, Debbie remembered me, saying "Hi Sophie....you staying with us today?", which was the perfect introduction. Both her and Eileen were just fantastic. They take real care and have a genuine interest in you, in your choice of outfit, and your make up. You could say that is what they are paid to do...true, but actually, they did seem to genuinely care, and really did welcome me as a woman into their female fold. Eileen helped me pick my two outfits, listening and taking into account what I wanted, and advising me accordingly. Debbie then did expertly did my make up. Then, once changed, both treated me as the woman I want to be. I literally was one of the girls for the duration of my stay. It was just wonderful - truly magnificent. And my wonderful experience was down to their expertise and kindness. It was FAB-U-LOUS!! Can't wait for the next visit.

 

Sophie x

 

Hi Diane Just wanted to write and tell you that I went for two changeaways this week, and what a wonderful time I had. Just wanted to let you all in head office know the wonderful job that Eileen and Debbie did, in the makeovers.Both were fabulous, but Debbie was especially superb. She has this wonderful manner about her, which just makes me feel that, whilst I am there, I am a woman. Her makeovers, the way she picks out clothes, and the make up design and hair styling, are just fabulous. But then after that, she talks to you like you are one of the girls, about girly things that women would chat about, and it just comes naturally to her. It is not forced, there's no act, which makes you immediately feel accepted as a woman there. Transformation should be very proud to have her. Thanks Diane....I can't wait to return!

 

Sophie x

 

Hi, This is a note of thanks to your company and if one person is to be singled out it would be Beverley on the phone ordering service. After much deliberation and a little therapy I decided time was right to undergo hormone replacement, my first contact with Bev was lovely, I found her proffesional, patient and knowledgable of products so well qualified to guide me through, I placed an order which arrived next day and delighted, I feel Beverley should be congratulated and no, I am not related to her! Many thanks again from

 

Robyn

 

Dear Tracey I feel I had to write this letter to extend my thanks to you personally for my experience on Tuesday 22nd February. After plucking up courage the day before to enter the shop, I was made so welcome and comfortable the moment I entered the shop. Your professional attitude and empathy are a credit to you and I wish the world had more people like yourself to make people like myself feel more accepted in society. Once I had gained confidence I made a purchase and agreed that I would return the next day for a Changeaway. Upon arriving the next day I was greeted with the same enthusiasm by you as I was the day before. I then felt nervous again as there was another lady in the shop. I should have had no doubt that this lady (Christine) would show me the same respect as you. She is also a credit to your establishment. The whole experience that I had over the next few hours felt so normal. This is soley down to your relaxed and empathetic manner. As you know I have a very Plain Jane dress sense and you respected that and did not try to make me look like a Drag Queen. And how you gave me a waist I will never know, I have not had a waist since I was 16!!!!! Your knowledge on applying make-up made even me look special (in my opinion I am six foot tall, eighteen stone and look like a battered rugby player) You made me feel so relaxed that I actually found myself chatting to you as if I had known you for years and telling you all about my secret life and I can honestly say I have never talked this candidly and openly with anybody other than my wife. Saying that, I don’t think I have expressed myself so openly and been so frank as I was with you. Just like two sisters twittering on. You also made me feel so comfortable and convincing that I couldn’t believe that I sat in the shop the whole time. Please pass this on to your managers and feel free to use is as a testimonial if necessary. Once again thank you so much for my experience with you. You are a credit to both your company and yourself. Hope to see you next year when I am next in Birmingham Best wishes

 

Chris

 

Many thanks for your help recently. As you now know I visited your London shop unexpectedly yesterday as I realised I couldn’t make next week after all and what an amazing experience it turned out to be. I don't think I was ever made to feel so welcome in a shop before, it felt like more of a spiritual event than a shopping expedition; many, many thanks to Samantha & Karitas. I left your shop feeling freed from decades of suppressed emotion and truly I haven't felt so good about myself in many a year. If anybody who has only ever cross dressed on their own before and has any doubts about making such a step by visiting such an establishment (and believe me I can understand) just try it otherwise you'll never know what you have missed. Once again thank you to Samantha & Karitas for making it such a special day.

 

Steve

 

On Monday (16th) I gave myself a treat by spending a day out, and just over £400, at your branch in London. It is a pleasure to tell you just how helpful and kind both Beverley and Samantha were, Beverley paying particular attention to my needs, and also to tell you how much they both contributed to my enjoyment of my time there. Please pass on my grateful thanks for their time and attentionl. My only regret is that I could not stay any longer than I did as it took me over three hours to get there and roughly the same time to return to my home near Southampton. Highest regards

 

Dawn

 

Yesterday, I visited your Birmingham shop and had one of the most fantastic experiences of my life, thanks to Shirley. This was my first-ever visit and my first ever Changeaway. I arrived just before 11 o'clock and Shirley was in the shop. Her sixth sense came into play instantly, as she knew I was self-conscious and sensed I was also confused. She sat me down on the sofa, "magicked" a cup of coffee and asked quite a lot of very discreetly worded questions. The result was that she put me very much at ease (not completely, but that was down to me, not her) and established, out of her questions, a look that would suit me - I had no real idea except that I didn't want to look tarty, because this was not a joke to me. Shirley selected a breast size, measured me, selected a pair of suitable shoes, guided me on an ideal pair of panties (I wore them today all day) and off we went. She left me to strip down to underwear then came back and started work. With a suitable corset, she whittled eight inches off my waist, fitted my bra and breasts (fantastic - if only they had been real!) and made an elegant woman of me. She did a fantastic job - my face was the only bit I wasn't entirely comfortable with, but Shirley could only work with what she had! Here's the fantastic part of it all - when she had finished, Shirley walked round me and then looked me in the eye and said: "You look fabulous". And I thought she was right - but it was she who had made this fabulous transformation - and by saying what she did so spontaneously gave me a massive confidence boost. It has given me the resolve that this will not be my last visit. I had a particularly difficult phsychological obstacle to overcome and almost without my realising it, Shirley led me through it to perform true magic. Not only did I look fantastic, I felt fantastic. I sat in the lounge for quite a while, getting used to this new me, read a few magazines, learned how to sit from what I read and I loved it. Shirley, you are a marvel and I'm looking forward very much to my next visit and experiencing you working your wonders again. Thankyou so much - and thankyou Transformations for being there.

 

Love, Sarah

 

I want to thank you. my last order was complete and on time like every order i placed. the three gifts were perfect. i will make use of them throughout my transformation. they are needed essentials for the m/f transformation. i will put them to the test when i go out to clubs and concerts. when i started transformation at first, i was very uncomfortable. now, i look forward to face the world. I am no longer a closet dresser.

 

love Martha

 

Hi girls I want to thank you all for my purchases my new breasts Alice dress ankle boots etc.  I now have everything that I need to be a complete woman thank you all

love Carol from Manchester

 

I'm just emailing to say that the creams arrived early this afternoon and I've already had my first session with them. Here's hoping that I'm able to see some results in the near future. If you like, I'll keep you posted. Can I say once again a very big thank you and how very pleased I am with your service, your promptness in responding to emails, the speedy overnight delivery and for your very kind and discrete help when I called. It is all very much appreciated indeed and I'll certainly have no hesitation in contacting you again by phone. Very many thanks again and my kindest regards.

 

from Jaydee in the UK

 

This is one girl that is beaming with pleasure after receiving my new Realistic Vagina. It looks so real and thank you so much.

 

A Loyal Customer

 

from Ginger in USA

I would like to thank Maria for all her help and assistance when I have called the customer service line and for the way that she treats me like a woman. Maria has always explained every item I have asked about in a very helpful and respectful manner and I look forward to talking to her again soon. Many thanks

 

from Karen in Suffolk

Thank you so much Claudia for your understanding and kindness, your service and Customer Service staff are extremely friendly and helpful and are a credit to your company. Cant wait till my next treat from CDC.

 

from Allan

I have just received my Realistic Vagina and what a wonderful transformation it has made. I started wearing it immediately and have never felt better. Thank you so much for offering this product and I will buy from you again.

 

from Marryann in USA

Thank you very much for the parcel I received and shall be ordering again very soon and I will be recommending you fast efficient service to all my friends.

from Steffan

 

Jess United Kingdom

I just wanted to thank you I've been really happy with Transformation and the products are fantastic, they have not only made a difference to my body but also my quality of life. I think I would have committed suicide had I not found out about this site so I just wanted to personaly thank you all at Transformation  for your support. Your customer service is amazing and user friendly and I immediately  felt at home and I don't  have to pretend to be somone im not. Please thank Stephanie Anne Lloyd,  I think she is legendary and a true hero to the Trans people and I think shes saved and changed so many lives for the better. I only wish there were more people like that around. Im going to continue to use your services indefinatly where I feel safe and secure. Thanks for your help and have a nice night Jess x



Cash on Delivery Service

  The "Cash on Delivery" service is now available in all E.U countries (European Union Countries). We use U.P.S, the worlds largest international package delivery company and Global Leader in time-definite scheduled delivery services, to confidentially deliver your order to your chosen address and collect payment from you in your local currency. This is a free service if you live in any of the EU European Union Countries ( excludes UK*) You may choose from our Priority delivery service, which can take as little as 2 days ( max 4) or our next Day Express Service. See below for full details of our delivery charges.
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Discreet Delivery Plain Packaging

Parcels are sent discreetly.  All goods are securely wrapped in plain packaging with no indication of the actual products enclosed. All orders are despatched within 2 working days We use both UPS or Royal Mail to deliver to you. You can also insure your goods in transit for a small fee

STEPHANIE'S ADVICE

  Our transsexual founder Stephanie Anne Lloyd is here to help you with any questions you have on any topic. I would like to be a woman with breasts and I want to make the right decision on what is the right product or is breast implants the best option. Stephanie says "Implants require an expensive operation and will never feel as real as those that you grow yourself. To develop your own breasts you will need to take oestrogen female hormones (wide choice available at transformation.co.uk remember the stronger the formulation the faster enlargement will be) and an anti-androgen which will lower the level of the male hormone, testosterone circulating in your body allowing oestrogen to act more effectively. Dependant on your budget, age and health we can provide free advice as to which products would be the most suitable for you"       How can I convince myself cross dressing is not wrong? I sometimes feel so bad and so guilty, I am married you see! John from Cambridge   Stephanie says Stop beating yourself up John. I can assure you it is not wrong, nor is it illegal. You are in very good company with your hobby. Men from top professional positions right through to unemployed people enjoy this interest. Most are married, all different age groups, shapes and sizes. Nobody knows why some men dress, some men do not. The medical profession do not even know. If only people generally could be educated to realise just how harmless cross dressing is! It does not mean you are about to change your sexuality. You have to realise this is natural and a necessity for your wellbeing. It does not go away if you ignore how you feel, or do not make provision to explore your need (discreetly), you will feel irritable, frustrated and fed up. Ignoring your need could even make you depressed. I am sure your wife would prefer a happy contented man. So no regrets, dress discreetly and enjoy exploring your femininity. I take a 'man' size 10 shoe. What size will I need in a ladies size? I have been tempted to buy them mail order, but I guess it is better if I can try them on first. Can I try them on in a Transformation shop? Barry from Wigan   Stephanie says Yes! Of course Barry. Transformation stocks shoes up to a size 12 and they are wider in fitting and stronger than those found in high street stores. Wearing high heeled shoes pushes the body weight forward, so you will probably need a size larger than normal, in your case a size 11. Most people have one foot slightly larger than the other and you can compensate for this by wearing an insole sock in the looser shoe. Transformation stocks classic lines in the main shoes and boots to go with every outfit, whether it is worn indoors or outdoors. They also stock very reasonable priced thigh length PVC boots for that special occasion.       Can I sleep in my Silicone Breasts? Mike from Newcastle  

Stephanie says

No, they are not meant for great pressure to be applied. It will only flatten them, which you certainly do not want to happen. ‘Rubberised’ ones which will give you the shape in a nightie and are more 'robust'. Transformation have ideal breasts priced at £59.99 or £69.99. Ring any shop branch or CSD to order, or place an order on the internet.         My wife found out I dressed, was furious and has given me a hard time ever since. I have promised to give it up and told her I would be having 'aversion' therapy to cure me, is it possible to be cured. Maggie from Stockport  

Stephanie says

Maggie you cannot be 'cured' because there is nothing wrong with you. Life might be simpler if you did not dress, but let me tell you that you are in very good company. Thousands of men from all walks of life dress. Nobody can say why some men do and some men do not. However it’s a natural part of who and what you are. The feelings go away, but can be 'managed' so that you don't have this feeling of vulnerability and or trapped obsession. You cannot give it up but you can fit it into your life, so that you don’t hurt or upset those close who perhaps don’t understand how harmless dressing is. Anyway why give up something which you enjoy and is necessary to you. Why don't you speak to someone at Transformation who can talk to you about 'changeaway'. A 'changeaway' would be the ideal solution, relaxing 'en femme' in a safe confidential place where you needn't worry about the telephone or someone arriving unexpectedly.           What do women really think about men who Cross-Dress? Terry from Leicester  

Stephanie says

I guess you could say opinions are divided on the matter. Some women are broadminded, find it fun and actively encourage their partner to do it (yes I know it’s every TV's dream). Other women would not want to know, because they assume (wrongly) it diminishes a man's masculinity. Stay on the side of caution when it comes to telling a partner. Remember you’re not doing anything wrong, illegal or immoral, but you could jeopardise a good relationship. Don't forget 'Transformation' shops exists for guys who have to be discreet! My wife recently got to know I Cross-Dress, when she came back from work early. She does not seem to mind, after the initial shock, but I am keen to proceed without upsetting her unduly. What would you suggest? Tony from Plymouth  

Stephanie says

You are being very sensitive to her feelings Tony which is nice and I would always proceed with 'caution'. Sometimes ladies do an 'about turn' after first seeming not too mind. I think the secret is to not appear too obsessed, not too talk about it too much and not seem over keen to spend lots of money on your 'new wardrobe', The main problem will arise with wives when they think their husbands female alter ego is taking over and it becomes competitive. Remember she married a bloke and she wants to have that way. It such a relief for you to not feel you have a dark secret and that must make you feel a lot more relaxed and a nicer person to live with.               Stephanie, I would like to order good through your shops on Customer Services, as I cannot get in to visit the shops easily as I live in Cumbria. However I am very worried about my Mother finding out that I dress. Would the packaging indicate where the items have come from? It is really scary to think she would find out. Ron from Cumbria  

Stephanie says

Ron, everything that Transformation sends out to Transformation customers is packaged in plain packaging, just with your name and address on the front. There would be no indication where the item had come from. Also we can send it next day special delivery for you, this would have to be signed for by you personally, therefore it would be you who personally receives the parcel. Also just to put your mind at rest any payment through credit card will only show on your statement as SERCUS Ltd and not Transformation. Transformation as a company are very focused on keeping everything discreet and confidential. You can also set up a post box at your local main Post Office, so do enquire.     I am 76 years of age. I feel a bit of an old fool asking this, but am I too old to come into one of your shops for a 'Transformation'? I have always had a very strong urge to do this, I do not know why! Sadly my wife died recently and now, on my own, I do not feel as though I would be letting her down, what do you think? I read your column regularly and always think you offer very good advice. Tommy from Blackburn  

Stephanie says

Tommy you are certainly not too old. I have dealt with a customer of 92 years! We can't make you look 18 again, but we can make you look a very attractive mature lady. Trust me! We can! You have suppressed your feminine side for too long, although I quite understand why. Now is the time to take action. Pop into our Manchester Shop to experience the high standard of customer service and allow the staff to work their magic. It will be a delightful experience, one to treasure! Give the shop a ring first for more re-assurance, just do it!       My Husband came home from the pub recently and disclosed that he wanted to Cross-Dress, I was horrified at first, but I do love him and want to try and understand. I found your website, which was a great relief as it looks so professional and respectable. Can I ask you Stephanie, does he want to do this because I'm not women enough for him? This has made me feel really inadequate. Gemma from Stockport  

Stephanie says

This is nothing to do with you or what you have or have not done. I can assure you of that! He probably finds you very attractive and wants to emulate you! Some men dress, some men do not and nobody knows why. Dressing does not emasculate your fella and is often not sexually motivated. We all have a mixture of masculine/feminine qualities. He is probably kind, caring and sensitive. Enjoy those qualities, remember he is doing nothing illegal or immoral. Some women know about their man dressing but don't want to witness it, others can accept it. If it's controlled! Perhaps you could set 'boundaries' of times when dressing is acceptable to you and when its not. You may decide it’s not appropriate in front of you. Take it slowly and keep the lines of communication open. He will feel tremendous relief that you 'know' and hopefully his now 'shared secret' will pull you together even more. Good luck!   My youngest daughter, Clare came home from school early unexpected. I was fully dressed, wearing my wife's clothes. I'm positive she saw me through the net curtains. I managed to dash upstairs and lock myself in the bedroom pretending to be asleep. Clare went back to school but has been acting differently to me ever since. What shall I do? Linda from Glasgow Stephanie says I feel that you might be panicking a bit here and jumping to hasty conclusions. You say that your daughter saw you through net curtains, in which case she would certainly not have seen you clearly if she was aware of you at all. Don't forget that young people can be moody and withdrawn for reasons quite unconnected with cross dressing. Cross dressing need not be a lonely, isolating hobby. Why not pop into the Transformation shop for a Changeaway and enjoy the peace and tranquillity of being with people who understand and where you will feel safe and secure.   Hi Stephanie I have a dilemma, I have been dressing for 25 years now and more and more find myself wanting to take hormones, not all of them but just some of them to help me change just a little bit to feel more feminine. Hormones like Triple strength nipple development cream, female persona capsules and beard retardant cream. What would your advice be? Michaela, Yorkshire Stephanie says Dear Michaela I understand your need for a more profound feminine experience and hormones would certainly help you here. The hormone products found in the Transformation shops are mild, safe and effective. They are plant driven products which have a gentle positive effect on the male system as confirmed by 1000s of users over the years. Most importantly they are not prescription strength so they can be bought over the counter in our shops. To obtain more information on specific items and possible results please do not hesitate to phone or visit us at one of our Transformation shops. The staff would be delighted to help you. Kind Regards, Stephanie               Every time I cross dress I get an erection. I do so want to experience your dressing up service and buy some breasts. Sorry I can’t afford the top ones. How can I control my urge so it doesn't happen when I’m being assisted by the lovely ladies in your shops, I’ve already spoken to Debbie, but couldn't tell her about this, she sounds so kind. Maria from Dublin Stephanie says Hi Maria, Having an erection at an inappropriate time, is a very real fear for a lot of men who dress. At the Transformation shops that fear is eliminated because you are given appropriate garments to use, whether you are trying to buy or having a changeaway make-over. You can of course buy similar garments made of fabric or latex rubber at the shop for use in the home. These are generally known by the name cache sex and works effectively to give a nice flat tummy. In answer to your second query regarding breasts even the most expensive are affordable these days with either a cheque spread or standing order mandate (interest free/ admin fee charged) There is a wide price range with affordable economy breasts that are very popular. Shops usually have sale breasts in stock. My advice always get the best you can afford.       I’m 22 stone, a bricklayer, with hands like shovels. Please, please how can I be feminine? I’ve lots of things from Scope shops. I love silky feely skin. Cathy from Cambridge Stephanie says Hello Cathy, Women come in all shapes and sizes. Regardless of your male size you can still look and feel stunning. Charity shops serve a very useful purpose but are unlikely to stock female clothing in the sizes to fit you properly. You need a free personal advisory facility, readily available at any transformation shop. This would provide qualified help and advice and get a quick visual glimpse of your feminine possibilities. Don't forget they stock specialist items/ sizes/and clothing. Once you wear silicone breasts and corsetry, wow! You will definitely feel like a woman. Hormone cream could help with achieving silky feeling skin. Good luck!               I've dressed in ladies underwear, my wife’s mainly for as long as I can remember, when I was only 8yrs old I remember pinching my sisters school knickers. I’m 46 years old, married with 3 kids. I can’t hide this anymore, I’m shaking as I write this. Emma from Newcastle Stephanie says Hi Emma, Please don't feel bad about dressing, you are doing nothing wrong or illegal, nor is masculinity threatening. If only everyone could be educated into the awareness of how harmless cross dressing is. Thank you for having the courage to send this Email. I would like you to talk to someone at Transformation. I need more information into regarding your circumstances, are you simply TV or could it possibly be that you feel you have more transsexual needs? Help can be forthcoming. So do not feel alone.       My cousin has asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, only Jenny knows I'm a crossdresser, what shall I do? Rebecca from Birmingham Stephanie says Wow! What a wonderful compliment. You must feel very flattered. Jenny obviously has a lot of confidence in your appearance and ability to pass as a "real" girl so why haven't you the same confidence? There will presumably be other family members present so why not discuss your fears with Jenny. Don't forget if you decline you do run the risk of offending and alienating a true friend. Only you can assess the risks involved but it sounds like too good an offer to miss. Just think of the beautiful dress which I'm sure you'll get to keep.                         Every time I go out cross-dressed I nip into the same newsagent to buy the latest Woman’s Own magazine. The owner always smiles and winks at me and last night he asked me out on a date. What shall I do? Maureen from Croydon Stephanie Says You sound as though you are passing very well indeed. being chatted up is what happens to us girls all the time so you'd better get used to it ! You must feel flattered even though you may not be interested in a date. It takes a lot of courage for a man to ask a girl out so let him down gently. I would wear a very broad wedding band the next time you go in or start shopping at a different newsagent.   I'm "caught short" whilst out shopping in Selfridges Ladies Department and I'm desperate for the toilet, what do I do? Michelle from Derby Stephanie says This is a frequently asked question. Cross dressing is not illegal. However it can be construed as "a breach of the peace" if you use the ladies toilets whilst you are out dressed. To avoid any problems I would suggest you use the unisex disabled toilets which can be frequently found nowadays. If you are going out dressed self-confidence is very important so be sure to visit a Transformation Shop and have a professional, feminising makeover. This will guarantee you have the "know how" to always look your feminine best. They can also provide you with an identity card, stating you are a TV/TS. Presentation of this will help avoid any potential problems and reduce any feelings of vulnerability.             Stephanie, what’s your advice about going out dressed. All I’ve ever done is go out with stockings, suspender belt and lacey knickers under my jeans and put red lipstick on whilst driving. Debbie from Edinburgh  

Stephanie says

Lots of men wear feminine under-wear discreetly this is perfectly acceptable. I always advise against going out dressed half and half wearing both male and female clothing and makeup. Doing this you attract the wrong sort of attention. Please NEVER put lipstick on whatever the colour whilst driving. I can understand the thrill and anticipation of going out dressed but for safety reasons make sure you achieve the best possible feminine look by getting help and advice first (Transformation offer a free personal advisory service) One bad experience could seriously affect your confidence. When I'm dressed in my favourite hookers outfit I fantasise about being picked up by a man in a flashy jag. Am I gay? I love my wife and family. She knows about my secret habit but does not want anyone else to know. Mandy from Birmingham  

Stephanie says

Most male TVS that dress are hot blooded heterosexual guys who are married or have a female partner. They would not be interested in other men sexually. Dressing is a fantasy world, you can be who or what you want to be and mentally create all manner of circumstances. Most men who dress respect and admire women tremendously and dream about what it would like to actually be a woman. Perhaps it is part of your bedroom routine this is your private business. It does not mean that you are gay or bi-sexual. You are most fortunate that your wife accepts your hobby and there is no reason why anyone else should find out. When your young son becomes older adjust your routine. But don’t worry for now just have fun!   What’s the best way to put stiletto seam stockings on? I can never get the seams right Stacey from Bolton  

Stephanie says

Always ensure that you have your toe nails cut short. Men sometimes forget to do this. Roll your stocking slowly up and over the ankle. It is a good idea to wear a suspender belt with six suspenders (available from transformation) rather than a conventional four. This would control the positioning of your stockings better. It is really a question of practice makes perfect. A good girlie tip for you – always purchase two pairs of stockings. The reason being if you ladder one you still have three stockings left. This is far more economical and your stockings will last longer.                   I’ve always had man boobs. I love them, am I a she male? Christine from Manchester  

Stephanie says

Lots of TVS have man boobs some are natural and others are cultivated by taking hormone product. Some males fantasise about having breast but cannot have them because of personal circumstances. The reasons why males want breast are varied it could be a sexual connection or maybe your instincts are perhaps transsexual and you would like to feel more feminine naturally. She males have a tendency to go to more extreme lengths to have breast and have surgery with breast implants. They still however keep their penis. Generally (there are exceptions to every rule) she males are gay or bi sexual and possibly motivated by sexual reasons to appeal to a wider audience. Every time I buy Tights and Stockings they ladder straight away - why? Betty from Wolverhampton   Stephanie says A common situation is that men forget to cut their toe nails, so make sure yours are nice and short, especially on your 'Big Toes'! Roll your stockings/tights slowly up from your ankle. This does take a bit of practice. Perhaps you need a thicker denier (texture) until you have had more experience, they are more robust to handle than flimsy nylon. Do not forget to always buy two pairs of stockings at a time, so if you do ladder one pair you have a spare pair. Transformation have an excellent selection of Tights and Stockings that you can purchase without embarrassment, including a range for longer legs.         I am desperate to meet other people who dress. Sometimes I feel very lonely and isolated and would give anything to have a friend who understood! What do you suggest? Gina from Portsmouth   Stephanie says Well Gina, you have quite a few options open to you. Obviously you could 'Chat on-line' and get to know people that way. If you arrange to meet anyone it’s always sensible to meet in a well-lit public place and tell someone where you are going. You could go along and experience a 'Changeaway at our Transformation shop'. It’s a great chance for some girlie fun and you will also make lots of new friends. Ring the Transformation shop on 0161 773 2572 for details. Hope this given you some ideas Gina. Good Luck there are plenty of people 'out there' who like you are keen to make new friends...           Please advise, I am in a bit of a dilemma. I have a date with a lovely girl in a couple of weeks and would really like to get to know her better. I am terrified of her finding out that I am a cross-dresser. This is an instant worry and because of it I usually avoid getting involved, but I would love a partner. Should I tell her on our first date? Peter from Norwich  

Stephanie says

Peter this is a frequently asked question and I can understand your concern. Some women do not understand at all just how harmless cross-dressing is. Some women do not mind being aware, but do not like to see it manifest. Then you get the women who don not mind at all and positively encourage the hobby. But don't let happiness pass you by, simply because of a fear. Life is about taking chances. Look forward to your date and remember it would not be appropriate to discuss anything of such a private intimate nature, so early in a relationship anyway. Proceed with caution by all means, but please do not let it hold you back. Some Men feel deceitful if they cannot be totally honest and whilst this is admirable in most circumstances, remember by dressing you are giving yourself a relaxation which is essential and necessary for you. This in turn makes you a calmer, better person for any relationships you are involved with. Why not be totally discreet and spend a few hours having a confidential make-over at one of our 'Transformation Shops' Good luck on your date I hope it goes well. My wife found my 'Girly Clothing' recently and has threatened to divorce me because she thinks I am odd. She wants me to go to counselling, but I know that I cannot give it up, I do not want to lose her. What can I do? Bob from Stockport  

Stephanie says

You could try and explain just how harmless Cross-Dressing is and that it does not affect your sexuality. If that is a no go area and you want to retain the relationship, then I am afraid you have to be discreet in future and perhaps not dress at home. Remember (Transformation Cross-Dressing service at all our Shops). By all means go to counselling with your wife which could perhaps give you the safe opportunity to discuss issues with a third party, you could not discuss at home. You can also request to speak to the counsellor by yourself which might help you to come to terms with any negative feelings you might have about Cross-Dressing. You could of course also pop into the nearest Transformation Shop and have a chat with all our understanding staff.   What can you suggest to hide my 'beard area', my make-up always seems to have a 'blue tinge' and I feel this is a dead giveaway when I go out dressed. Louise from Manchester  

Stephanie says

For your make-up to last, you must use an 'oil based' foundation, applied sparingly with a damp sponge (Miracle Beard Cover Cream) and then set with the complimentary loose powder. Water based make-up products do not provide the necessary consistency for enduring cover. You can of course use the shop sold 'Hormone Based Cream' to minimise the growth rate and lighten the colour of the facial hair.               Last week I was caught by my neighbour trying to take her underwear from her washing line, I am 65 years old recently retired. I was sure she was at work. I told her it would never happen again. She is always popping round for a chat with my wife, I am extremely worried she will tell her exactly what happened. Tom from Cheshire Stephanie says What a shame you did not think to say “the weather forecast predicted rain and you were doing her a good turn”. Perhaps you could still maintain that was the reason you were removing the washing, but her sudden appearance had frustrated you. If your wife mentions the situation that arose, you may have to bluster your way through! Lesson learned! Why be ‘impulsive’ and try to obtain underwear that would not fit you, when you could find undies that do. Transformation caters for any shapes and sizes without compromising on femininity. Pop into your nearest branch in Prestwich, Manchester, and see the gorgeous selection of products in store. Age is no barrier to cross-dressing, and now you are retired you can surely find the time. Happy Shopping….           Dear Stephanie, please help me… Its 8 weeks before I get married. My fiancée is not aware of my cross dressing interests. I am going to be so jealous when she walks down the aisle in her wedding dress. Should I tell her now? She knows I love sexy underwear, I am always buying it for her, and it is a great excuse to buy some for myself at the same time. We have a little girl just turned 2 Years Old. Andy from Reading Stephanie says My advice is to always get on the side of ‘caution’ when it comes to disclosing your dressing interests! Lots of people do not understand how harmless cross dressing is, and how it’s not related to your sexual orientation. Only you can calculate the ‘risks’ involved in telling your wife to be, and I sympathise because it is a very difficult decision to make! It is possible to run a parallel life and manifest your female self by enjoying a ‘makeover changeaway’ in one of our Transformation Shops, where you will always have unconditional acceptance by all our lovely staff. In this way you do not have to tell anyone ‘outside’, you will feel both calm and stress free in a safe environment at all times. This will surely make you a good Husband and Father in your home environment! Yes you will be jealous of how beautiful your wife will look in her Wedding Dress, and I am certain she will look stunning, but you can have the very same experience, and look just as stunning on a ‘Bride’s changeaway experience in our shop. I hope you enjoy a long and very happy marriage.              

Skincare and Eye Care There is nothing better for your skin and eyes than a good night's sleep, so if you have any problems getting a full 7/8 hours' worth try taking Valavuin herbal tablets, or alternatively mix 2 teaspoons of apple cider vinegar into half a cup of honey. You can store this in a glass jar, and simply take 2 teaspoons full before you go to sleep. Ageing of the skin is caused by the tight collagen structure gradually breaking down, which then does not retain moisture so well, leading in turn to drying and lack of elasticity. I'm wearing reasonably well I'm told (!) so let me tell you what I do to keep my skin and eyes in the best condition possible. skin2.jpgFirst, the Face: It is absolutely essential to cleanse your skin thoroughly at night. Just think - if acid rain, traffic pollution and lead etc can kill trees and erode stonework, what can they do to your skin? Use a good hypo-allergenic cleanser, as you need to cleanse the eye area as well. Whether you use a wash-off variety or one you wipe off with cotton wool is up to you, but do ensure any cotton wool you buy is 100% pure, as cheaper brands will have other material mixed in which will irritate your skin and eyes. Next, go over your face with toner on cotton wool, and be amazed as yet more dirt and oil is removed. Next spray your face lightly with mineral water. You can buy Evian Water in aerosols, or simply use a small plant sprayer, kept solely for this purpose. Now you need a good cream which will seal in the moisture and penetrate the top layers of skin. If you are in a position to use our hormone cream then so much the better, as the oestrogen content will reduce the pore size and improve the texture. In the morning use toner and again apply a moisturiser, and if you can wear make-up then so much the better - it has the double benefit of sealing in the moisture and protects your skin from pollutants in the air. Your skin also needs vitamins gained from exposure to sunlight so do ensure you get enough fresh air, but do not confuse this with sunbathing / tanning, as this is terribly harmful and causes premature ageing. Another definate no-no is smoking - it ruins your skin and gives an unpleasant odour to your clothes and hair. Avoid too much alcohol, it dehydrates your skin and destroys vitamin C. Fice alcohol units is the absolute maximum, and only half that amount if you are on female hormones. You are what you eat so do try to eat a balanced diet with plenty of vegetables, fresh fruit, fish and poultry, avoiding too many fried foods (which cause greasy skin) or sweets (which can cause complexion problems).  
  skin3.jpgNext, The Eyes The outstanding feature of most transvestites and transsexuals is the eyes. Normally, both groups have longer lashes than ordinary females, so you should look after your best asset carefully. This is what I do depending on whether I am going out or not. The Tea Bag Trick Simply wet two tea-bags (it doesn't matter how many perforations they have), lie down and place one on each eye for 10 minutes. This takes away puffiness and dark circles miraculously before you go out for the evening. Cool Cucumber Cut 2 thin slices of cucumber and put one on each eye for 15 minutes, and then splash eyes with cool water. Especially good if you have been out in bright sunlight or have been working at a computer screen etc. Finally, The Body: Skin is the largest organ in the body. Not only does it keep all the ugly bits inside, but it is alive. It is full of tiny holes (pores) which let moisture out - but not in, thankfully, otherwise taking a bath would make you fat. It really is worth looking after your skin, and this is my regime: Bathe daily in warm (not hot) water, washing with a good brand of liquid soap. Once a week use a loofah and exfoliating cream. Your skin should be bright pink when you've finished scrubbing, and all the dead skin will be removed. Use a pumice stone or skin file on any hard skin on your feet. Always add bath oil to the water after washing, and soak to get a coating before getting out and patting dry with a soft towel. Use a good cream to seal in moisture. If all this sounds like hard work, it's not. It's very pleasurable, especially if you can get someone else to rub in the body cream! Give up some television time to ensure you follow this regime - you'll look better and feel better, and that's a promise!

ALL YOU NEED

  All you need to - our top ten for convincing femininity. With over twenty years experience in transforming men into beautiful women you can rest assured that with our expertise, knowledge and high quality products you will be able to transform yourself at home into a convincing female. Our female figure moulding, transforming and feminising products have been developed, designed and and manufactured exclusively by Transformation. Our aim being to give you that amazing convincing look and all over feel of a real lady. Many first time visitors to the website and our shops are a little overwhelmed by the array and choice of products. If you ever get a chance to visit one of our shops then you will be offered a one on one personal advisory service by one of our friendly mature female staff, who will show you all you will need for convincing femininity. To assist you on this site we have listed below our top ten items that you will need from "head to toe" to achieve your dream of convincing femininity. 1.1. Most important of all - breasts. If you can afford the best then it has to be our "Creme De La Creme" silicone breasts. Plus with our adhesive kits you an even experience the joy of going bra-less. 2.2. For that hourglass female waistline you will need a tight lacing corset. This will pull your waist in by up to 8 inches (20cm). 3.3. To hide and tuck away your maleness you will need one of our realistic vaginas or maybe a cache sex 4.4. For those essential female body shaping curves, our hip and bottom shaping garments will give you extra inches, where you need them - on your hips and bottom. 5.5. Beautiful lingerie silky, lacy, satin, sheer and see thru. You will need a bra, knickers, suspenders, petticoats and slip. Why not include a basque. Not forgetting your hosiery - stockings or tights, sheer, seamed or fishnet. 6.6. Top clothing. With so much to choose from, including short sexy mini skirts or clingy lycra dresses and fun uniforms. 7. 7. Footwear. Court shoes, sandals or boots. From one inch to six inches. If it's your first pair we would suggest no higher than four inch heels. You will be amazed how feminine and slender your legs will look in a pair of our stilletto heels. 8.8. Your crowning glory - a beautiful wig. Long or short, curly or straight with hundreds to chose from you are sure to find what you are looking for. 9.9. Cosmetics. A must have is our miracle cover kit, to hide your dark shadow areas. Then we would suggest our complete Transformation make up kit. Not sure where it all goes or how to apply it? Then include our make up lesson DVD or vhs video. 10.10. Then finally remember "Accessorise to Feminise". Every woman just loves wearing jewellery. Include a pair of our dangly clip on earrings, a necklace, a bracelet, a ring and last but not last a hand bag.

WHAT CAN BE ACHIEVED

  Sparkling Vibrant Feminity Become more feminine with: Hormone Surge - With the help of Hormone Surge you too can share the mental and emotional changes of every woman's menstrual cycle, as your body responds just like a woman's. Hormone Balance Capsules - an advanced product contains an essential mix of female hormones that only produce the desired result when they are in perfect balance - your body will be infused with just the right female hormone levels. Femglow Capsules - An enriched formula contained in capsule format, containing a blend of female hormones, essential vitamins and minerals to provide you with the ideal female profile. Continuous daily use leads to an inner feeling of contentment, a decrease in anxiety and aggression and feminine feelings. Female Personna Capsules - The presence of certain female hormones in the blood stream has a tremendous effect on conscious thoughts and moods and even unconscious thoughts. Specially formulated for those that seek this experience. HRT Capsules - The development of HRT has already transformed the lives of millions of women all over the world as it maintained the optimum levels of female hormones in their bodies after the menopause. Now you too can benefit from hormone replacement therapy. You can increase the size and sensitivity of your breasts with: Oestrogen Hormone Breast Cream - By applying and rubbing into the breast area, this powerful combination of female hormones is absorbed via the skin (males involved in the manufacture of female hormones started to grow breasts and are now excluded from such processes), providing faster absorption than the skin patch method. ProFem Drops - Concentrated Female Hormone Product Dramatically boost your levels of female hormones with these highly concentrated drops. All you need is just four drops placed on your tongue every night and morning. Oestrogen Hormone Patches - Following the development of the nicotine patch comes the hormone precursor patch. Apply one patch every 24 hours - it's as simple as that! Oestrogen Hormone Precursor patches are designed to stimulate the body's own chemical transformation into the production of the feminine defining hormones. Oestrogen is the female hormone produced after puberty that trigger breast growth and the development of the envied feminine hourglass figure. Oestrogen Hormone Precursor patches can be worn discreetly day and night. Oestrogen Accelerator Capsules - Specially formulated for use in conjunction with Oestrogen Hormone Breast Development Cream, these hormone accelerator capsules enhance the speed of breast growth for those looking for faster results. Supplied in capsule form, it is free from adverse side effects, although it is not unusual to experience mild hot flushes at the commencement of treatment. Effect a Male To Female Transformation with: Female Hormone Precursors - The result of years of intensive research chromosome research, this unique formula triggers the body's inbuilt mechanisms for hormone production, acting as a catalyst for the male to female transformation. Female Personna - The presence of certain female hormones in the blood stream has a tremendous effect on conscious thoughts and moods and even unconscious thoughts. Specially formulated for those that seek this experience. Female Chromosone Enhancer - Stimulates the body's ability to enhance and exaggerate its natural chromosome profile, which is the unique pattern contained in each individual acquired on a 50/50 basis from mother and father. Hips, thigh and curvy bottom with: Hormone Bottom Cream - Hormones dissolved in the carrier cream are specified to cause a build up of fatty tissue under the skin so you develop the classical female bottom, rounded and full that gives you that sexy wiggle as you walk. Not only will you look sensational but the feeling is erotic too! Potent Hormone Concentrate - Once-a-week transdermal hormone treatment. Remove Unsightly hair with: Hormone Body Hair Retardent Cream - This unique, patented cream gradually weakens both the structure and pigmentation of your coarse, male body hair to convert it chemically into soft feminine down. A completely safe and permanent solution to the drudge of shaving and the hideous leg and arm stubble that inevitably follows. At last you can have the soft, hairless skin of a woman! Anti-Androgen Capsules - From puberty onwards male hormones circulate throughout the body, stimulating male characteristics and suppressing female ones, to the extent of neutralising and destroying any female hormones present in the body. This male hormone inhibitor is designed to prevent this blocking action, allowing feminising hormones to work without opposition. Accelerate Your Feminisation With: Femboost Capsules - A powerful blend of hormones and precursors to boost the action of individual hormone products such as our Breast Creams. This enhanced complex blend lowers your natural inbuilt male resistance to the reception of female hormones, so making them more effective. Anti - Androgen Capsules - From puberty onwards male hormones circulate throughout the body, stimulating male characteristics and suppressing female ones, to the extent of neutralising and destroying any female hormones present in the body. This male hormone inhibitor is designed to prevent this blocking action, allowing feminising hormones to work without opposition. Oestrogen Breast Growth Accelerator - Specially formulated for use in conjunction with Oestrogen Hormone Breast Development Cream, these hormone accelerator capsules enhance the speed of breast growth for those looking for faster results. Female Hormone Precursor Capsules - The result of years of intensive research chromosome research, this unique formula triggers the body's inbuilt mechanisms for hormone production, acting as a catalyst for the male to female transformation. Have Luscious Beautiful Thick Hair with: Hair Regrowth Programme - The Lotion contains minoxidil as an active ingredient combined with two powerful anti-androgens. Massaging in the lotion into the scalp results in the anti-androgens firstly neutralising the male hormones reaching the hair follicle (the roots) which are responsible for the intial hair loss whilst allowing the minoxidil to re-stimulate actual hair growth. Anti-Androgen Capsules - From puberty onwards male hormones circulate throughout the body, stimulating male characteristics and suppressing female ones, to the extent of neutralising and destroying any female hormones present in the body. This male hormone inhibitor is designed to prevent this blocking action, allowing feminising hormones to work without opposition. Reduce Beard Growth/Dark Shadow with: Hormone Beard Retardent Cream - This unique hormone formula gradually weakens the hair structure and slows its growth right down. No more need of heavy foundation and powder, and no more five o'clock shadow. The answer to every transvestite's prayer! Anti-Androgen Capsules - From puberty onwards male hormones circulate throughout the body, stimulating male characteristics and suppressing female ones, to the extent of neutralising and destroying any female hormones present in the body. This male hormone inhibitor is designed to prevent this blocking action, allowing feminising hormones to work without opposition. Develop Feminine Nipples Triple Strength Nipple Development Cream - The trigger for nipple development is the release of female hormones during puberty and this special formula imitates this process, causing the transition to full plump nipples associated with developed females. The process also sensitises the area facilitating the arousal process triggered by touch or sexual stimulation. Nipple Development Pump - Used in conjunction with Hormone Nipple Cream, this developer with it's special vacuum suction accelerates the development speed and increases the pertness of the nipples. Create a SexyHourglass Body Shape with: Hourglass Feminine Hormone Cream- The sexy hourglass figure of a woman that develops from a shapeless young girl is all caused by the transforming effect of hormones. This hormone formula in a transdermal carrier cream allows you to replicate this effect. Potent Hormone Concentrate - Up to 80% of the potency of oral hormones is lost as it passes through the stomach and liver before entering the bloodstream. This problem has spurred the development of transdermal hormone delivery systems, in the form of patches, creams, gels and powders. Potent Hormone Concentrate allows absorption all over the body via the skin, and this can obviously deliver a much higher dosage than a single patch.

Many transvestites applying make-up for the first time are appalled at the mess they make of it, but there's no need to be discouraged. The art of using cosmetics has to be learned like every other skill - and if you use your common sense, it's something you can master. Don't be afraid to experiment in the safety of your own home. You will always learn from your mistakes and, unlike say sky diving, if you make a mess of it the first time you can always have another try. Remember these basic points and you won't go far wrong: Emphasise your good features Camouflage your blemishes Always use good quality cosmetics If in doubt what suits you, get professional advice When make-up is really well applied, no one knows you're wearing it. So, the secret of making the most of yourself is discretion. Disguise the fact that you're using foundation or beard cover by taking the extra five minutes to make sure it is well blended in and that there are no edges or abrupt changes of colour showing. The Nose Noses tend to shine, and shiny noses draw attention to themselves. Right on the point of the nose, there is an area which needs special attention paying to it. It needs a matt finish, but the colour of that finish must blend in so well with the rest of your make-up that no one knows you've touched. Use your fingers or a cotton wool pad to blend the powder well in and to remove any excess. The Jaw Too often, beginners to the art of applying make-up concentrate on the front of their faces, and forget that people look at the rest of their face aswell. Work down from your cheek bone and blend the foundation cream, derma blend or powder down from the highlighted area (right) going under the jaw. Examine yourself carefully to make sure there are no lines showing where the make-up ends, that there is no excess make-up on your hair, and that you haven't left any make-up on your ears. Either that - or wear a very large wig! The Eyes The eyes are considered by many to be the most important - and most attractive - part of the face. Carefully outline the eye with an eye pencil, and discreetly shade the eyelid with eye shadow. Remember not to use an eyeshadow the same colour as your eyes - try for a contrasting shade of the same colour for a superb effect. If you have light blue eyes, use dark blue eyeshadow; dark brown eyes, use a light tan shadow and if you have green eyes use a contrasting shade of green If you have red eyes, wear sun glasses!  
  The Underjaw Pay particular attention to this area when you are shaving, as there is nothing more ugly than a little tuft of hair protruding through a beautifully made-up face. A slightly darker shade of concealer used here will give you a slimmer jaw line and disguise a multitude of faults, but be careful there is no perceptible border between your darker make-up and the lighter one you used on the front of your face. Go over this area several times with a cotton pad or powder brush to ensure an even blend and a natural graduation of shade. If you've got a double chin, take twice as long! The Eyebrows If you intend using false eyebrows, ensure that the colour does not contrast too much with your hair or wig. If you are shaping your own eyebrows, do not make them too pencil-thin because they will end up looking as though they have been drawn on. Wherever possible, try to maintain the natural line of your eyebrows, but make sure you trim any parts that intrude onto the top of your nose area. Noel Gallagher is not the look we want. When you are satisfied you've made a superb job of your make-up, take a last look at yourself in the mirror and then go downstairs and make a cup of hot, steaming coffe. Drink it slowly, holding the cup under your chin the whole time, then go back upstairs and take another look in the mirror. In five minutes, the steam from that coffe will do the same to your make-up as five hours at a party will do. If your make-up stands up to that treatment and still looks good, then you've made an excellent job if it. Congratulations. But don't get complacent... Carry fresh supplies of make-up with you all the time, and get to a mirror every half hour during the time you are out to check that all is still well. Like all works of art and the Forth Bridge, make-up needs constant maintenance!  

We can picture in our mind the typical drawing-room scene. The upright father in his dark suit, the timid-looking mother at her writing desk, the elder son in his Army uniform, the young girl in her lace-trimmed pinafore, and finally the maid in her starched apron and cap, all posed rigidly for the camera.

 

But imagine, if you would, that the timid looking mother is really in charge of the family, and that beneath that frilly blouse and cameo broach lies the heart of a true dominatrix.

 

Her husband sits so erectly in his chair because of the tightly-laced female corset which he has been forced to wear for years and years.

 

The young girl is, in fact, a 14 years old boy, put into pinafores to curb his early signs of waywardness and rough manners. Underneath, he has to wear his corset day and night to train his waist to become as tiny as possible.

 

The elder son, also in a lace-trimmed corset under his khaki uniform, has only enlisted to stop his fiancee dressing him up and treating him like a maid.

 

And the maid herself, she's, of course, a boy as well. A young nephew who came to stay when his mother died, and found himself forced into female domestic service.

 

Far fetched? Perhaps, but only because such a number of males dominated into corsets, pinafores and maids' uniforms were unlikely to be all in one household. However they did exist, individually, all around London and the rest of the country, and most likely every other country in Europe.

 

The evidence is presented in a recently published collection "Confidential Correspondence on Cross-Dressing 1911- 1915", edited by Peter Farrer. It makes fascinating reading.

 

For example, let's start with the young recruit. You may have heard of British men who failed to enlist during the First World War being handed white feathers by women in the street as a sign of cowardice. But some women went very much further, as a letter printed in a newspaper in June 1915 pointed out.

 

This was from a wife of a 24 years old man who had thought twice about volunteering for the trenches. She and some friends had formed their own corps, with the women all dressed in khaki and the men as maids...

 

"Most of us have husbands who will not join the forces, and we have compelled them under persuasion and application of the birch to don female attire and do all the housework."

 

"We hold meetings in each other's houses. Our husbands have to wait on us and call us "Sir", and we always say "Miss" to them. I expect they feel awfully foolish when they have to get matches and light our cigarettes and dust around the room with us looking on."

 

"We sometimes take them on our knees, and one poor boy had the humiliation of being made to stand in a corner. This is exactly what wants doing with those who won't enlist. We have made them feel ashamed of themselves."

 

"The boys have been dressed like this for four months now, each one being made to swear in front us all that he would for the rest of his days wear the petticoats."

 

To some of these men, such feminised punishment may have come as a shock. To others, it might almost have been second nature. For the collection, mainly taken from the newspaper New Fun, has many examples of teenage boys being persuaded to dress as girls.

 

One letter is from a man whose mother insisted he wore white pinafores from the age of 14 to keep himself neat and tidy. To begin with, he shared his sister's, but over the coming two years began to collect a drawer-full of his own.

 

"Lady friends of my mother expressed great admiration for the plan, and several of them, to my disgust, sent me pinafores for Christmas presents. These were carefully chosen for me when the donors came to call, and I had to appear wearing their presents and was made to thank them and say how pretty I thought the pinnies."

 

Others who came across women feminising their sons were less supportive. One 1915 letter is from the wife of a "big strong man" whose son is fighting in France. She claims to detest effeminate men and cites one example she recently came across.

 

She had been invited out for tea with a friend, and to her horror had found her hostess's son pencilled, painted, powdered and dressed as a girl.

 

"Several ladies present gushed over him, and his adoring mother proudly produced a tape in order that his admirers might measure his pinched in the waist, which proved to be 16 inches.

 

"I was disgusted with remarks such as 'Doesn't he make a lovely girl?' 'His corsets squeeze him beautifully', or 'Isn't his waist delightfully pinched in?'. Needless to add that I was glad to go home".

 

Some boys learnt to love the feeling of constriction and the slim waist which tight corseting brought. There are a number of letters from men who are proud of their figures, amongst them a young draper's assistant who had been in the trenches himself fighting for King and country.

 

"I've have read some of the remarks about that effeminate men is a kind of weakness, but from experience, there are men who have that fascination fighting at the front now (I myself have done a bit, but am home again and expect to go back shortly) so that shows that all are not weak," he writes

 

Others had hated the experience of being feminised and never wanted to return to girlish clothes once they had escaped them. A letter printed in the summer of 1915 tells of the experiences four years before of a young man who went to stay with his aunt while his widowed father was abroad.

 

The aunt hadn't really wanted him but decided that if he was going to take up space he might as well work for it. The maid was dismissed and the nephew took her place.

 

At first, this sounds like classic trannie fiction, but then comes the ring of truth:

 

"I must say that a small waist and pretty lingerie has quite a fascination for me when on a girl, but I have not the slightest desire to go back again to my female attire."

 

Surely, for a real trannie, such thoughts would be sacrilege.

 

There is undoubtedly some fantasy about. A number of the letters do seem too much like wishful thinking to the more cynical reader of the 1990s. One, for example, concerns a young man who has to pretend to his dying father that he is the daughter that never was.

 

But even these only serve to underline that much about being a transvestite hasn't changed over the last eighty years. There are reports from trannies who chance going out dressed, and pleas from others for advice on how to go about buying women's clothes. In those days, it must have taken quite a nerve to have gone to a dressmaker.

 

There are over 200 letters reproduced in the collection, and Peter Farrer has indexed them under subject headings, dates and newspapers for ready reference. He's done a magnificent job on bringing to life a transvestite world that history tried to ignore.

 

"Confidential Correspondence on Cross-Dressing 1911-1915" is available priced £7.50 (plus £1 p&p) from bookshops or direct from Karn Publications Garston, 63 Salisbury Road, Garston, Liverpool L19 OPH.