Presenting Yourself As A Woman - Deportment and Etiquette

When presenting yourself as a woman, every detail matters. The way you act is just as important as the way you look. Deportment and etiquette are especially important. Does etiquette sound like an old-fashioned concept from the 1950s? It’s not. Knowing the proper etiquette makes you look classy and feminine which is so important during your transition and goes a long way towards a positive first impression. (Besides, you never know when you might be invited to a garden party with the Queen at Buckingham Palace!)

Greetings

These are the general rules when meeting somebody for the first time:

• Shake the hand of the person you are being introduced to.
• If you are sitting down, stand up to shake their hand.
• Look them in the eyes and smile.
• Bonus points if you say the other person’s name you meet them.

Kissing, air kissing, and hugs depend on cultural norms and how well you know somebody. When in doubt, let the other person lead. If it’s a good friend then of course you are free to hug or kiss away!

Sitting Down

Always sit down and cross your legs at the ankle, not only does it make your legs appear slimmer it is also more ladylike.

Punctuality: Take pride in being timely.  Just because other people are late on occasion doesn’t mean you should be

Dressing – do not overdress especially if going out in the daytime, so a simple skirt or trousers with a top and low heeled shoes. Choose styles that are currently popular but don’t be a fashion victim.

Make-up – women do not wear heavy makeup in the daytime so a sheer beard cover, light powder, toned-down lipstick, light dusting of blusher, eyeliner, brown spectrum eyeshadow and mascara is as much as you need. Training DVD available

Hairstyle – Natural hair colour as near as you own maximum shoulder-length

Stockings or tights. Opaque will cover any hair on legs and are fashionable and flattering.

Jewellery simple but classic

Speech – do not try & speak in a falsetto voice, breath from your stomach and aim for a breathy sound Speech Therapy of Feminising your voice CD course available

Deportment – Women walk, stand & sit differently to men so take time to observe. Deportment Training DVD available

Confidence – Looking nervous identifies you immediately as a crossdresser or a terrorist, neither of which is good. Walk tall and be the gorgeous, feminine female you have always wanted to be.

We do have a Make Up and Deportment Training DVD available which is a great help in all these matters  

REALISTIC SILICONE BREAST FORMS THAT LAST A LIFETIME

Female breasts are the biggest outward sign of a male to female transformation and you should only ever need to purchase one pair to last you an entire lifetime so it is important that you choose wisely.

As well as a guarantee that they will last you a lifetime, you will want realism. The look and movement of a natural female breast can only be replicated if the weight and density of the filling are correct. It also needs to be heat conductive so it attains body temperature so as well as moving in a natural way it also feels right to the touch.

You will see inferior grades of silicone breasts advertised elsewhere, usually massed produced in China which will quickly degrade & split.

Using medical-grade siloxane silicone we have perfected breasts that are authentic replicas of the female breast. Made exclusively for us in Germany they are simply so good and durable that we provide a lifetime guarantee so you can actually view them as an investment rather than a purchase. We supply both private clinics and the NHS who use them when reconstructive surgery is unviable following mastectomy but we do not sell any of our products through third parties

It took us several further years of research & development to perfect reactive nipples which are offered as an option for those seeking total realism.

You can wear these life-like breasts in a bra or choose to use our special medical adhesive allowing you to replicate the unfettered movement of your breasts as you move.

Many of our customers choose to develop their own breasts using our exclusive oestrogen-based hormone products but meantime or as an alternative, our superior siloxane silicone breasts are an ideal way of achieving an instant he-to-she transformation. You can even complete the female naked look by wearing with our hand-made vagina latex panties.

Wearing realistic breasts is such a sensual feeling and one that will give you years of pleasure.

LET'S GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS

Whatever you call it, bottom, bum, butt, ass, arse etc male & female bottoms differ significantly.

To appreciate how different observe a couple walking ahead of you and note the difference for yourself and you'll see that the woman's wiggles from side to side. The shape and movement define it as female and next to breasts creates the coveted hourglass shape of the female figure.

Whether you simply want to look convincing just when you crossdress or develop your own feminine bottom.

You will find all sorts of pads for bottom shaping but they simply will not move naturally, therefore we have created a silicone shaping solution that like our range of breasts provide you with the realistic look, feel and movement.

For those who want to transform their bottom from male to female, we have a range of feminising hormones that will stimulate the production of the subcutaneous layer of natural fat deposits exactly as it does for a girl transitioning through puberty.

This male-to-female butt transformation takes place on a cumulative basis so can be disguised if needed to looser-fitting clothing.

For those who wish to progress through to the shemale (ladyboy) stage or intend to undergo gender reassignment surgery, then a fully inclusive treatment course is the best option but for those that want just selective development we also provide specific transdermal hormones for feminising just the bottom area.

Since 1984 we have helped hundreds of thousands of trans people all over the world achieve the degree of male to female butt transition that they required and below you can read some of the many testimonials they have sent us and some of their own before and after treatment photos.

For over 31 years we have been at the cutting edge of female hormones for men and our consultant endocrinologist is acknowledged as the world's leading expert having won many prestigious awards.

Every product or treatment we supply comes with a 100% satisfaction or money-back guarantee and we have a support team that you can rely on for unlimited advice and support.

POTENTIAL PITFALLS OF CROSSDRESSING IN PUBLIC

We appreciate that all of our customers have their personal goals relating to feminisation. Many purely wish to crossdress convincingly, others to develop their own female breasts while a minority see complete gender reassignment as their future and we cater for everyone right across the transgender spectrum.

Free expert advice is available to advise you on the best and most cost effective course to attain exactly what you personally require.

Doctor Temperli is the worlds leading endocrinologist and is at the leading edge of feminising hormone research whilst our founder, Stephanie Anne Lloyd has personally undertaken the entire journey from male to female being one of the early pioneers of sex-change surgery

We are here to support you in every way we can, with advice on how to look convincingly feminine, with free advice on the legalities, how to change official documents, which hormone treatment is best for you and in fact anything pertaining to male-to-female feminisation

With over 30 years of experience we guess there is not a lot of situations we haven't learnt to deal with to provide the desired outcome but if one arises we will find the answer for you.

Crossdressing in public presents some legal problems dependant on where you live. We can provide a medical document which is accepted in the UK as sufficient for you to be protected from the risk of prosecution in the event you have to use female public toilets and if stopped when driving by the police (please remember NEVER to drive a car in high heels as they constitute dangerous driving whomsoever is wearing them, all women have a pair of flat shoes in the car

Rules vary in differing countries, in Saudi Arabia no women are allowed to drive, in most western countries considerable freedom means that unless you do something else (speeding, or being stopped for a breathalyser test, faulty lights or a complaint re using female toilets you are relatively safe but should you be arrested the fact that you were crossdressed may well be reported in the local press when a case comes to court. Perversely you are far less likely to encounter any problems in daylight than at night as that is the time criminals usually start work and women feel at their most vulnerable.

Stephanie used her transsexual status before her birth certificate was legally changed to join Lancashire Cricket Club (LCC) and turned up to at their AGM successfully gaining entry to this male only bastion to successfully overturn their ban on women members. You can read about this and other rights she has campaigned for in her autobiography which is FREE to read online here

Team Transformation is here to help and advise you regarding any issues or problems you encounter so please do not hesitate to contact us. As the world's leading experts if we can't help you then certainly no one else can and we do it all for free

info@transformation.co.uk

PROVIDING FREE ADVICE & SUPPORT SINCE 1984

WARDROBE BASICS FOR ALL T-GIRLS

Assuming you are going for an INSTANT MALE TO FEMALE TRANSFORMATION then the following is the essential items you will need for your feminine wardrobe.

Breast forms - For the authentic feel, look & movement of real female breasts then guaranteed for life Siloxane Silicone Breasts are the best investment but cheaper foam & latex alternatives are available, some crossdressers even use water filled balloons!!

Bra - Choose a full cup bra and get one white and one black to start with

Body Shaping - You want to achieve an hourglass shape so a waist clincher or corset is necessary to achieve a narrower waistline and then add thigh and bottom shapers. A cache-sex or latex vagina panties will ensure that your manhood does not make an unwelcome appearance

Tights/Stockings - Choose sheer black or dark tan but avoid fishnet and seamed variants during the daytime

Outerwear - Every woman has a black outfit as it is so versatile and slimming. An A-line or flared skirt will feminise your shape. Avoid tight clingy tops or horizontal stripes and wear a contrast loose fitting jacket to disguise large shoulders

Footwear - Choose black court shoes with low heels or boots or sandals according to the season

Wig - Choose a colour similar to your natural hair colour but avoid black at all costs. One with highlights is a good choice and a length in keeping with your age with curls or waves soften and feminise your face

Neck Scarf - Wearing a colourful neck scarf can add a splash of colour to your outfit and also disguise your Adam's apple This is not an exhaustive list but gives you the basics to begin with. Use black as your default colour choice and remember to wear a white bra under white or light coloured tops. The clothes women choose to wear is governed by the weather, time of day and occasion so once again spend time observing them and their outfits avoiding anything that will draw undue attention to you. Better to be understated than overdressed and although it may seem an anathema to you, feminine trousers (again in black) can form the basis of a great look. Being a woman is never easy even when you are born one and if genetic females agonise over what to wear don't beat yourself up if it takes some time and experimentation to achieve a look that makes you fell comfortable in your own skin Happy window shopping and if you need help just send us a photo and we will provide some personal advice and as always it will be free Very best wishes from your T-Girl sister, Stephanie

DEVELOPING YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

Apart from having 2 eyes everything about being male and female is as different as an apple and an orange. The book "Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus' encapsulates just how different the genders really are. From the way brains work, emotions, gestures, walking, talking (even inflections). Sitting, getting in & out of cars, greeting others, yup pretty much is different. Even MTFtranssexuals who have female brain sex have to work hard to feminise their every waking moment. Nervous, sweating, feeling uncomfortable all send out adverse signals so self-confidence as a woman is an absolute essential. So how do you get from A all the way to Z? OBSERVATION You need to study women in detail without getting arrested!! Watch them on chat shows, in cafes, when out walking, note the small details, how they fiddle with their hair or earrings when they talk, listen to the 'breathy' way they talk and the difference in speech inflection. Observe how they greet friends & strangers, men and women. Women are so much more tactile and animated then men, they also feel comfortable touching their female friends, no problem sharing a bed whereas men would find this uncomfortable. You will notice friends will often go to the loos together and will coinfide quite intimate details of their relationships with close friends. PRACTICE Practise makes perfect and never has this been truer in behaving naturally as a woman without the need for conscious thought. Forget practising in front of a mirror, that involves multi-tasking a skill that eludes most men. Instead record yourself by using the video function on your smart phone one action at a time only moving on when you have perfected that aspect. Same with voice, use the recording function to practise, you'll need to breath from your tummy instead of your chest, it helps to place your hand on your stomach until you perfect this. Please don't try a talk in a falsetto voice which will only result you sounding like the 'last gay in the village'. Our Speech Therapy Training Course consisting of 3 CD';s and a manual is a great investment if you are really serious about sounding convincing. The toughest test is using the telephone. In person, if you look convincing then the other party makes the assumption that they are hearing a woman speak but without such an image the recipient will judge your gender solely on how you sound. Here is a great tip that I learnt ALWAYS begin by saying your name first "Hello this is Stephanie Anne Lloyd speaking" sets the scene perfectly and if the refer to you as 'Sir' or 'Mr' use your self confidence to correct them 'actually your are talking to Miss Lloyd'. You will find that it is they who are flustered and who will apologise blaming a 'poor line' I have lived for over 35 years as a woman and do not experience any problems despite appearing in two BBC television series in 'Hotel Stephanie' and being the editor of a large circulation lifestyle magazine having a reasonably high profile in the UK I did it and so can you, practise will make perfect and please remember Team Transformation are always here with free advice and support

We will be with you every step of the way, Best wishes from your T-Girl sister, Stephanie

FREE COPY OF OUR FOUNDERS AUTOBIOGRAPHY

FREE TO READ ON-LINE OR DOWNLOAD

Written personally by Stephanie Anne Lloyd Transformations Transsexual Founder Stephanie's autobiography entitled "Stephanie - A Girl in a Million" was published as a hardback book in 1989 by Random House and the 10,000 copies quickly sold out. The updated version encompassing the last 25 years will again be published as a book, but Stephanie decided to release it free-of-charge to Transformation's customers

At the age of 69, Stephanie can look back at her life with a unique perspective having spent the first 30 years as a man, the 3-year transition using hormone therapy followed by gender reassignment surgery and the last 36 years as a woman. All of her uncertainties, problems, discrimination and heartaches are described as she struggled to fight her transsexual feelings. Highly successful as a man rising to a director of a FTSE 100 company, she lost everything to follow her destiny, unemployed, abandoned by her family and friends, hounded by the tabloid press, the story of how she fought back to establish a new successful life as a woman

Over the years, Stephanie has appeared on numerous television & radio programmes, co-hosted ITV's Charity Telethon and fought successfully for the right for transsexuals to have their birth certificate amended, True to form Stephanie holds no punches being brutally honest about her life experiences good & bad. She has asked that her gravestone contains the inscription 'well no-one can say that I led a boring life'

This entertaining and informative book is FREE and you can either read it on-line at www.transformation.co.uk or download it as a PDF document

Take this opportunity to get your FREE preview of this updated autobiography

Read Stephanie's Story

WHY TRANSFORMATION IS SO DIFFERENT

  Since 1984 Transformation has spawned many competitors so now the internet is teeming with companies supplying products to the transgender community and most are pretty much the same selling inferior Chinese made silicone breasts, large size women's clothing, shoes etc, and if that is all you want then Transformation is not for you. For 31 years, Transformation has operated as a not-for-profit specialist supplier. Funded by our transsexual founders supermarket millionaire husband, literally millions have been invested in research and product development so we can offer superior products designed and produced to offer the most convincing male to female transformation, whether you just want to instantly cross dress, develop your own female breasts or want to undergo a permanent transition. We are the only specialist supplier offering a cutting-edge range of female hormones, produced by Switzerland's leading endocrinologist. We worked with a German specialist to develop a superior silicone breast using medical grade 'siloxane' which replicates the feel, weight, movement and even reactive nipples that are so realistic that the UK's National Health Service (NHS) purchase them from us for post mastectomy patients. In our own manufacturing facility we produce unique latex realistic vagina panties. These range from our original VEE G-String, to our best selling WEE VEE which allows you not only look like a woman when naked but to sit and pee like one. The time consuming multiple dipping process, hand finishing even down to painting the internal vagina which is authentic having labia lips, clitoris etc. We NEVER rent, sell or divulge your contact details to anyone else Transformation is also the only company that offers a 100% guarantee on EVERY single product we supply. If you are unhappy with any product you receive simply return it for a full refund Free advice is always available from our customer service girls between 8am - 5pm Monday to Friday (UK time) We are the leading experts because Stephanie, our transsexual founder underwent a sex-change operation 35 years ago so can give you the benefits of her personal experience and then add in the world's leading endocrinologist (hormone expert) and you have a formidable bank of specialist knowledge to draw on and it's all for free We view our customers as valued members of the Transformation family, we will always ensure you get the very best products at the lowest possible prices Thank you for joining the circle of trust that exemplifies the spirit of Transformation Transformation Unique not-for-profit crossdressing experts for 31 years 1984 - 2015

Cathy's Story

Becoming a middle aged girl... Although I have wanted to dress up as a woman for most of my life, I never really had the nerve to do it. Friends, family and work colleagues had occasionally ridiculed transvestites when stories appeared in the press. My mother (whom I believe suspected I was a bit of a girl) would make announcements occasionally such as "I would be devastated if one of my sons were gay or effeminate". As a young man this did nothing to help with my growing desire to dress up as a girl. I don't think I'm outwardly effeminate and I know I'm not gay as I'm not attracted to men. However, I really do admire woman, I like their fashions and hair styles, and like real women I know I can enjoy dressing like that as well. I'll avoid all the psychology and the 'why do I do it' soul searching, all I know is I want to do it and it is only fear of society and my peers that made me try to suppress my cross dressing desires. Last year I decided I was going to do it for real, my urge to dress up and impersonate females had only become stronger over the years so one day I made the decision to become the transvestite I knew I was. I still remember the traumatic afternoon I told my wife, the news went down very badly, but I wanted her to know the truth. Despite the bad reception to my confession I can still vividly recall the next few hours as I shaved my legs and chest, I really felt this was it - I was finally going for my long held dream to appear as a female. I should point out that for me I wanted to go the whole way when I dressed up, I wanted everything, shaved body, cleavage, breasts, full make up, tights, dresses, high heels, and wigs. I wanted no half measures, if I was going to pretend to be a woman I wanted to look and feel as close to being female as I could possibly achieve. I think I am partly female as I certainly felt very comfortable creating my female body shape. I loved wearing the silicone breast forms more than I could ever have believed. Shaved legs and a smooth hairless chest are just such a sensational tactile feeling that I don't think I can return to having a hairy body again. After the initial shaving, it does not take too long to keep your body shaved. I find I now enjoy having a bath and shaving my legs and I'll admit I love rubbing in all the moisturisers I now use every day, it's a girly thing but I love it! As I approached the point where I finally became a practicing trannie I discovered the Transformation web site and realised this was it! I could order make up, shoes, dresses - and of course my delightful discovery of silicone breast forms - and it would all come mail order, no nervous shopping expedition.  

  I have only dressed up en femme on ten occasions and I realise that I do not make a very convincing woman at all. This is a little disappointing as after a lifetime of waiting I thought with a bit of make up, a nice wig and dress that I could immediately look female. Not so! I understand that I need a lot of practice and I need to learn the skill of applying make up. I enjoy wearing make up and I get a little better every time but I have a long way to go. At first I just loved piling make up on and wearing tons of it, and I mean tons of it! It was very exciting to finally put it on my face. I'm calming down now and I'm still trying to use what is just enough to look convincing. I do enjoy that moment when I start to put on my foundation, I love the perfumed smell and feel of it as it covers my male features. My favourites are mascara and lipstick, I very much enjoy wearing both on my face. My favourite moment comes when I'm finally made up, I have put on my female underwear, my temporary breasts feel good in their supporting bra (occasionally I go braless), my smoothly shaved legs are sheathed in nylons, I'm wearing a form fitting short lycra dress and I've slipped on my high heels I then put on my wig and I experience a real thrill at suddenly becoming a woman, it is simply a wonderful personal moment! I'm only an impersonator of women and I'm not good at it, but I want to be good so I will carry on trying to refine my female alter-ego Cathy and who knows maybe one day I'll finally be mistaken for a woman, that's my dream. I was fortunate that I reached a stage in my life where I had enough money to indulge myself and buy all my female clothes and accessories. I now understand that what is important is not really how convincing you look as a woman, but enjoying the whole dressing experience. You don't have to look sensational, you don't have to go the whole way, just do what you want and enjoy it, I absolutely adore it! I enjoy dressing up and pretending to be female and for me it makes me feel soft, warm, and relaxed. It is a very tactile experience and after my years of suppression my confidence has been boosted by finally exploring my feminine side. If you are like me and suppressed your transvestite nature then I can only say: give it a go at least once, it really is wonderful to do, I'm sure you will enjoy it as much as I have. Be true to yourself, we only live once and in the grand scheme of things, with some of the horrors going on in the World today, dressing up as girl is not really a bad thing by comparison.   Bye, Cathy XX

JESSICA'S STORY

This is the story of how Jessica gave her first college lecture. I am 41 yeas old and have been cross-dressing on and off since high school. After several career changes I decide it was time to re-enter college and to get a degree in broadcast journalism. In May of 2003 I was taking a Sex and Gender class and accidentally let it slip on first day of class that I had some cross-dressing experience, while answering a question about how long it takes for a woman to apply make-up the. (My answer was a resounding 30 minutes.) After class I informed the instructor that not only did I have past experience but that I still do cross-dress. She asked me if I would be willing to attend class as Jessica and give a lecture on why I cross-dress. I agreed. On May 23,2003 Jessica gave a PowerPoint presentation on cross-dressing. Her story was very well received. Before giving the lecture I e-mailed one of my friends who had tried to get Jessica to attend classes. I informed her that Jessica wan not only going to attend a class but was also to give a lecture. The following is her e-mail back. 'Wow, congratulations! That should be a fun class. I'm proud of you for agreeing to do it. Is this a topic that is normally discussed each semester, or is it something that the professor added once you revealed that you cross dress?' The instructor does talk about cross-dressing every time she teaches the Sex and Gender class and I have agreed to give the lecture again next fall. She also wanted to know if I had a lecture prepared. I informed the class that I had been cross-dressing since high school and told them about several events that have happened to me. Here is part of what I shared with them. After earning my first college degree in 1986, I got my first job for a small computer keyboard manufacture in Kimball, Nebraska. One day, another engineer and I mentioned that we have not seen the production floor manager for some time. Our secretary, Gail, informed us that he had been fired. When we asked hew how she knew, she informed us that if we would attend the Wednesday morning breakfast club we would be able to what was happening in the company.

The only problem, we would have to come dressed as girls. For two weeks she kept reminding me that I needed to attend the breakfast club in a dress. I have to admit that I did chicken out the first week after pulling into a parking spot in front of the restaurant. The next week I waited until Gail had entered the restaurant. As I walked in I overheard her saying that I had chickened out again. The others told her turn around and she surprised to see me standing their, in a nice light blue dress. Since this incident I have appeared in a dress on Halloween, both at work and at square dances. I have also attended an office Christmas party wearing a nice black holiday dress with my nails done. I also informed the class that I have been kicked out of the Men's Restroom while dressed as Jessica on Halloween and that real women have asked me if I needed to go and that it was ok to use the ladies room. In fact they usually need to use the facilities as well and usually go in together. Although not asked during the lecture I have been asked about restroom usage, my usual answer is that it is just as unnatural for Jessica to use the man's room as it would be for my male self to use the ladies. The day after the lecture, I received this e-mail from one on my Sex and Gender Classmates. 'I just wanted to thank you so much for doing your presentation yesterday to the class. It was very interesting and it was great to meet Jessica! When you told us that that was your first presentation on that particular subject I was shocked! You did so good I thought you had done that a thousand times! You were calm collected and looked wonderful too! I thank you again for sharing your experience with me, I have always believed that the more people who learn about stuff they don't know the more accepting everyone will be to each other. I hope to see Jessica in the future on campus.' During June, I was enrolled in another class. As part of that class we were assigned parts of a play to read. Not knowing that I cross-dress, the instructor assigned a female role to me. He also assigned male roles to several of the women in that class. We were informed that we could 'play' the part. So on the day that we were to read the play, Jessica attended a class, the second time in three weeks. In both cases, I was scheduled to work in the Media Production office after class, and I did not have time to change. I was pleased to discover that Jessica was received well and made to feel welcomed at work. Jessica Cox.